Family woes...

Let me start this out by saying that I love my family - blood or marriage, I love them because somehow they are family to me...

I have my parents, my sister, nieces and nephew (along with my oldest niece's two children), aunts and uncles aplenty, and so many cousins I don't know that I could even tell you who belongs to which side of the family sometimes... my grandparents unfortunately have passed away... but with that many people as my blood relations, there are bound to be a few bad seeds or causes of chaos...

Now... my husband's family is a mixed bag - I don't really know if his biological father's parents are still alive or not, how many siblings that man has or if they are alive, etc... J's mom, due mainly to my having always tried to maintain contact with her, I know a good deal more about her side of the family... but J's never been one for keeping really good contact with his family outside of his mom, dad and siblings born to his mom... siblings born do his dad are a different story. None-the-less.. I'm very supportive of J and any contact that he wants to keep with any of his family - biological, adoptive or otherwise... And because I love him, I love them - even if they are worthless pieces of trash for humanity (I've got my own worthless trash family too, so I can't say I wouldn't do for his family what I'd do for my own)! 

Where this gets tricky is me having to deal with all this family... so onto the Woes:

1st... my sister, I love her, I do - but she has always managed to make me totally insane with the way she acts sometimes.  Luckily, so far she has been very "happy" for me but usually follows that us with something of her own drama... usually that includes money or the kids or the latest guy in her life, and right now it's mostly money because she just doesn't have the money to be able to be here to support me when I need my sister. Love ya sis, but your support really isn't needed.

2nd... my mother-in-law... between her and my sister, sometimes I wonder who is worse about over dramatizing the negative! Right now MIL's favorite thing to be negative about is child birth, but a close second is her ability to freak out about the due date... love her, but the filter needs to be put in place and stay there cause I firmly believe that if the negativity continues then her place in the delivery room (if she's here for that part) is seriously going to be reconsidered.

3rd... J's dad (notice I don't refer to him as father-in-law, it's cause I don't like him)... wow, that pretty much sums this side up! I can't stand the man - he's rude, crude and inappropriate 24/7. But he's J's biological father, and of course for the last 15 years or so, the man that he actually considers "dad"... I kinda keep hoping that I could lump him in on the same category that I do my sister, that of not needing to be here for any of it - but that's not fair to J. He wants both of his parents to meet this child, so I'll do what I can to make sure that it happens - even if that includes offering to pay for the mans flight here. 

4th... and this is kinda minor in reality - but I'm kinda nervous about A: my parents not being here in time for the birth.. B: if they are, I'm kinda nervous about my list of "allowed" cause I'm really not going to want a crowd.. if my mom is here, she's on the list no ifs/ands/buts along with J and possibly a doula.. the rest will probably get kicked out of the room out of frustration or annoyance..


So anyways, that's my woes for the moment.. nothing crazy and over the top, just things that I'm pondering and kinda feeling a little tension over.. I'll probably continue to complain about all of this in some way, but it's good to get it out in what I see as a logical chain of thought!