What to do, what to do...??

I truly don't know what to do or think... this stupid investigation is royally stressing me out!! My poor husband is stuck on what he should do - on one hand he feels that he needs to try and do something to push this to conclusion, on the other he worries what trying to push will end up doing to his career... sadly every time he makes the decision to push for a conclusion someone else in his command reminds him of the possibilities of ruining his career if he does. Most recently, the opinion of how long it'll take to get things in order between the investigation and the decision on his promotion status is approximately 11 months... hence where my question of what to do comes in... should I try to talk the husband into no longer waiting on trying to get preg or continue to wait until we have an oops while here?? 11 months is a long time, specially since we've been "waiting" for over a year already and I've personally been "waiting" for much, much longer!!!

In the meanwhile... I've been doing lots and lots of research on things I want or what to do (or not want to do in some cases), traditions I would like to start, etc once I am able to have my little one.

• I want to co-sleep (side-car) instead of allowing baby to sleep with us in our bed... and I've found the crib I would like to have, although I'm pretty sure I'll have to get bed risers for the crib in order for it to work as a side-car/co-sleeper crib.

 

• ... and I'm going to use a breathable crib liner and wedges instead of crib bumpers.

 

• No TV's in bedrooms, or at least not accessible to the kid when I don't want them to have access. Hopefully I'll be able to work this out that I can have a play room for them to have video games and watch movies in as well as keep toys in.
• Christmas and Birthday gifts - 1 gift of clothing or accessory (jewelry, shoes, etc), 1 gift of something to aid with learning (books, etc), 1 toy gift and once they are old enough to play with electronics 1 electronic gift or accessory... Maybe if I stick with this I won't spoil my children?!