- Investigation initiated for a supposed recruiting impropriety on my Husband and a fellow Recruiter.
- After beginning questions and comments, a civilian secretary becomes involved but not her immediate supervisor.
- Shortly after investigation is initiated, the fellow Recruiter is released from the investigation and is allowed to PCS to a new duty station.
- Investigation stalls, has key players come and go, is sent up and down the chain multiple times to "fix" or make corrections to the investigation.
- Husband loses opportunity to put in his Officer Packet.
- Remaining individuals involved in investigation are questioned a 2nd time and asked again for statements.
- Stalls again, is up and down the chain again a few more times.
- Husband is given a promotable status, E6 to E7.
- Judgement rendered nearly a year after original investigation launched (60-90 day is regulation standard for all investigations to be finalized), and a rebuttal statement is set in.
- 60 days after - still no word on a final verdict, and now my husband stands the chance of losing his promotion status.
I am livid over this whole process, mainly because it is taking so long for something to happen - but also because it affects my husband career so much. I've tried multiple times in the past year to discuss the feelings I have over this, but it usually seems to upset my husband so I drop it. However, after an extremely frustrating day of wondering and worrying over this whole ordeal, I finally fully vented my frustrations to my husband and expressed how taxing this is to me. Now I know that it's his career, I know that I shouldn't get involved, I know that it's the military so there are any number of little pitfalls that would cause major damage should I actually ever get a chance to "go off" on the personnel that might actually be able to assist in finally getting this problem resolved - knowing all of that I usually keep my mouth shut when in contact with any of his peers or superiors... but it doesn't keep my mouth shut when it's just me and my husband unless it starts to upset him and then I back off. So the fact that I didn't back off last night is a little surprising, but I think he finally might understand just a hint of my frustrations over this. I expressed how him being kept in this limbo state is difficult on me just by seeing how difficult it is on him, nevermind that it constantly runs through my head on a loop that delays the baby train. To be fair, this investigation would probably not bother me as bad if I wasn't as baby crazy as I am... it would still bother me because it affects my husband so much, but I doubt the frustration levels for me would still be as high. It also affects my work... I love the company I work for, but I know I'm leaving here eventually and therefore it's not as important to me - which sucks since I'm usually so good at being on top of everything. This endless limbo loop has me very distracted personally, so therefore it distracts me professionally - it's hard to keep professional and personal separated... None-the-less, I do try and succeed on most days. Anyway, after my vent - Hubby typed out a list of questions both from me and him... we'll see if this list actually gets brought up today! I'm debating on negating my rule about leaving his career to him if he doesn't get some answers today... because to be honest - this has me so wound up and twisted that I'm going to come unglued before too much longer and it won't be pretty when I do!!
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